4 Vulnerability 'Green Lights' That Indicate It's Safe To Open Up

Oct 01, 2020

Written by Caitlin Hawekotte 

Years ago, I lived through one of the toughest chapters of my life thus far. For the first time I could remember, I didn’t have a strong sense of who I was, what I wanted, or where I was going. The inner turmoil I was experiencing was always bubbling just beneath the surface, ready to boil over if a stranger so much as asked how I was doing. 

So, I ended up sharing my story with a lot of people, from a stranger I met while traveling who told me they simply could not listen to my problems for even a minute more to family members and friends who met my feeling low with love and compassion. Admittedly, that first one stung at the time because of how direct it was, but I appreciate the honesty and can laugh about it now because their comment was probably more than justified. Plus, it led me to a huge realization.

I had been conflating vulnerability with unfiltered transparency.

It was time to infuse my love of openness and authenticity with...

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ENFPs And The 5 Love Languages

Sep 28, 2020

Written by Lacey Ramburger 

Despite the fact that ENFPs can relate to a wide range of situations and quirks, we still have our own distinct preferences in how we do certain things. How we desire to receive and show love plays a significant part in our lives, and even if we share a personality type, the way we express affection can still vary significantly.

The Five Love Languages, by Gary Chapman, breaks down the most common ways we show the way we care and the ways that cause us to feel loved and validated. ENFPs are traditionally a warm, excitable group of people that enjoy showing the way they feel about others- take a look below to see what each love language looks like coming from an ENFP.

Words Of Affirmation

You're always searching for the good in others. You like to give people the benefit of the doubt. While all ENFPs thrive on being recognized, you are more specific in wanting to be known and appreciated for all your eccentricity- and you need to actually hear it.

In...

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5 Hidden Career Strengths of INFP and ENFP Personalities

Sep 28, 2020

Written by Caitlin Hawekotte 

When I first entered the “real world,” looking for full-time work, I struggled to explain my strengths on resumes and in cover letters. As an ENFP, I was primarily interested in people, so my main focus in my part-time jobs was to provide a positive customer service experience. That didn’t translate easily onto paper because I had no idea how to measure or explain it the way one might with something like sales.

I felt discouraged, and I was worried that I might not have anything valuable to offer the world, let alone a potential employer.

I discovered that I was not alone in this fear. I have had countless conversations with ENFPs and INFPs in which we have commiserated with one another over feeling like we don’t quite belong in the working world. 

However, over the last decade, after working more than 12 jobs, studying leadership development, training in personality types and strengths, and coaching individuals and...

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5 Things I Wish I'd Known Before Getting Married as an ENFP

Sep 14, 2020

Written by Caitlin Hawekotte

Since I was a teenager, I have known I am a textbook ENFP—idealistic, romantic, and a bit of an over-thinker (though I don’t love that term). My husband, however, didn’t take a personality assessment until we were about five years into our marriage.

As it turns out, he is a textbook ISTP—practical, independent, and unafraid of taking risks. 

When I first learned this, I was certain we must be doomed. And the more I focused on our differences as negatives, the more distance I felt between us. He felt it, too.

And yet, just this past week, we happily celebrated our 10-year wedding anniversary. While I can’t pinpoint an exact moment when things shifted for us and brought us back closer together, I can share with you the lessons we’ve learned that have played a huge role in doing so. I hope they help you as much as they did me.

1. There Is No Perfect Type for Us…

When I was becoming a certified practitioner of...

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Am I An ENFP Or An INFP Personality?

Aug 26, 2020

Written By Lacey Ramburger 

When it comes to figuring out which type you are, there are bound to be some mistypes in the process. You discover things about yourself you may not have been aware of, and depending on which method you use to identify your four-letter type, you may question which one you are more than once. 

Out of all the 16 types, it’s more common for those labeled ENFP and INFP to be mistyped. Both lead with functions that focus on looking into the world to take in ideas and possibilities with an emphasis on spending time alone to process how they feel about a particular situation.

Ultimately, these two types share the same four functions, but they use them in a slightly different order. It makes sense that there would be plenty of similarities resulting in some confusion- so how do you figure out which one you are?

Differences In Decision-Making Strategies

One of the most obvious ways to tell the difference between ENFPs and INFPs is how they...

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How ENFPs Accidentally Ruin Their Lives

Jun 25, 2020

Look, I'd write an intro to this article but I know you wouldn't read it. So let's get right down to it. Are you an ENFP? Stop doing this stuff. Seriously, stop it. You have too damn much to give to the world. 

  1. They internalize the message that succeeding means having to conform. They learn to dull their passions, ignore their impulses and temper the parts of their personalities that want to shine brightest. Instead of showcasing their brilliance to the world, they starve it away in silence - assuming no one else is hungry for what they have to offer.

  2. They take advice from people they wouldn’t want to become. Instead of taking direction from the dreamers, the doers and the disruptors of the world, they listen to the cautious, the unconscious and the meek. They underestimate the impact they could have on others and resign themselves to playing it small. They ignore the voice inside their mind that continuously tells them to aim higher.

  3. They adopt the belief that...
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WTF Are The ENFP's Cognitive Functions?

Jun 13, 2020

 
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